I have spent a lot of time this week, talking with clients about how they like to be recognised by others and the familiar ways in which they look for this recognition that can be both healthy and unhealthy in it’s application. I wanted to share here an essay I wrote a few…

  ‘An old Cherokee told his grandson, “My son, there is a battle between two wolves inside us all. One is Evil. It is anger, jealousy, greed, resentment, inferiority, lies and ego. The other is Good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, humility, kindness, empathy, and truth.” The boy thought about it and asked  …

Deep within the heart of all human beings lies the knowledge of our own eternity. It is this memory of our own eternity that lives as a kind of longing within each one of us. This longing seeks to relieve or fulfill itself through the acquisition of objects or the experience of intimacy in relationship,…

  In case no one told you today, you are good enough.   Have you ever wondered where some of your beliefs about yourself come from? Do they belong to you? Are they based in the here and now reality? Or do they belong to someone else?   Can you change your beliefs about yourself?…

  New beginnings are often disguised as painful endings. Lao Tzu   Everyone has heard the saying ‘when one door closes, another door opens’. Change can be hard though. What if you are used to that one door being open. You know the positioning of the handle and can reach and open it automatically. Perhaps…

Looking behind, I am filled with gratitude, looking forward, I am filled with vision, looking upwards I am filled with strength, looking within, I discover peace ~ Quero Apache Prayer

What is meant by the term ‘Stroke’? Transactional Analysis employs the term ‘strokes’ to denote any form of social inter-action where another’s presence is recognised. Therefore any transaction is also an exchange of strokes. While the general term ‘stroking’ might be used to imply close, physical contact, in reality and practice it may present in…

  Asking for support is not always easy. In fact sometimes it can feel daunting and even overwhelming for some. There are services out there which are available to everyone however. Below is a list of contact numbers and websites that you may find useful. Talking really does help.   Mind – 020 8519 2122…

I was reminded yesterday, of a quote I once read about armour being designed to protect the front of the body and not the back and that the reason for this is that we were not meant to run from our enemies, rather stand and face them head on. I think that we can apply…

“The fact that you’re struggling doesn’t make you a burden. It doesn’t make you unlovable or undesirable or undeserving of care. It doesn’t make you too much or too sensitive or too needy. It makes you human. Everyone struggles. Everyone has a difficult time coping, and at times, we all fall apart. During these times,…