Have you ever walked into a room and felt uneasy without knowing why? Or instantly relaxed around someone you just met? Those moments aren’t random; they’re guided by something called neuroception, a process that happens deep within your nervous system. Coined by Dr. Stephen Porges, the founder of Polyvagal Theory, neuroception describes how our nervous system automatically…

Bad feelings don’t make you a bad person. Nor do they make you ungrateful.  Everyone is inclined to the odd intrusive thought now and then. It’s healthy and natural. These thoughts can feel ‘bad’. The kind of thoughts we feel we ‘shouldn’t’ be having or the kind of thoughts that make us question what kind…

Have you ever felt simultaneously too much and not enough? If you’ve ever felt like the world wasn’t built with your brain in mind, you’re not alone.  Many people who are autistic, ADHD, or who simply experience life in ways that don’t fit’ typical’ expectations have been told they need to change, mask, or ‘fit…

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I wanted to introduce myself again. It’s been a while and things have changed a little. About Me

What is a Judgement? Teaching a DBT module on judgements recently I realised just how important it is that we become aware of our own internal judgements.  So what are they?  An observation is when you notice something using your senses, what you can see, hear, smell, touch, or taste, without adding your opinion. So…

We cannot live without relationships. We are born into them. Babies dependant on another to survive. Relationships are where the wounds are inflicted and also where the capacity to heal lies. They are a stage, over and over again for us to reenact our needs in an attempt to get them met, or to stay…

A really useful visual tool for anxious thoughts.   Close your eyes and imagine the waves pulling in and out of the shore. They always come back. And as long as they always come back everything is always fleeting. Try and imagine your thoughts in this same way. Moveable and evolving. As tough and unmanageable…

Anxiety isn’t a feeling, it’s the avoidance of a feeling. The attempt to discount or run away or remove ourselves from a feeling.  I think the word ‘anxiety’ has become overused and therefore also misunderstood. I certainly didn’t understand it or my own relationship to it for a long while.  Leaning into my own relationship…