In case no one told you today, you are good enough.

 

Have you ever wondered where some of your beliefs about yourself come from? Do they belong to you? Are they based in the here and now reality? Or do they belong to someone else?

 

Can you change your beliefs about yourself?

 

Absolutely.

 

Sometimes, as we grow up, we import the beliefs of others into our own conscious reality and start to adopt them as our own. Like this;

 

Anything that can be found in the Parent Ego State (P) is a belief, thought or feeling that we have copied from another. These things tend to come from our parents, our primary care givers, grandparents, teachers, siblings, persons of authority or anyone who became important enough for us, during our development, to hold on to their ideas. Over time, and with enough back up information from reality (for example events or words of others that fit with these beliefs) these beliefs, thoughts or feelings can start to feel like our own.

What happens then is this information, borrowed from others and stored in our Parent Ego State, starts to filter in to our here and now reality and Adult Ego State. Like this;

 

 

When a contamination occurs it can lead us to believe that these thoughts, beliefs and feelings we hold about our self, others and the world really are ours. We then start to act as if these things are true. Why would we not when they seem so real?

 

 

 

 

 

 

Therapy can help as a way to separate out these beliefs that we hold on to from our own beliefs or also and importantly help us to develop new beliefs about our selves, others and the world.

 

So again, in case no one told you today, or maybe you didn’t tell yourself, you ARE good enough.

 

If you would like to talk about some of your beliefs please contact me here:

 

katycounsellingherts@outlook.com or 07950 345363